﻿<?xml version="1.0" encoding="utf-8"?><Search><pages Count="34"><page Index="1"><![CDATA[Inhouse publication of
Indian Society for Applied Behavoural Science

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                   www.isabs.org

                            Volume 29]]></page><page Index="2"><![CDATA[Table of contents

Subject                             Contributors               Page
                                                               3
1 Letter from Dean, Publications                               4
                                                               6
2 'Positive Psychology              Dr (Prof) D Chattopadhyay  7
                                                               9
3 In Between                        Ekta Anand                 16
                                                               17
4 The Unfolding of The Unconscious  Ameet Mattoo               18
                                                               22
5 My Goa Travelogue                 Bindu Cherungath           28

6 Feelings                          Sasmit Patra               29
                                                               30
7 Me & Myself                       Nisha                      33

8 The Power and Powerlessness of Silence Rachna Sharma                       2

9 Psychological Defence Mechanisms  Tejinder Bhogal

10 The Life                         Sushma Sharma

11 Some Insights                    Vipul

12 A Tribute to PVR Murthy          TV RAo

13 Thoughts after a lab             Shakti Roy]]></page><page Index="3"><![CDATA[Dear readers of Here and Now,                              Rajeshwari L

Greetings! As we say goodbye to the year that is           Dean, Publications
passing by, we are also in the process of embracing the    isabspub@gmail.com
year that is waiting and beckoning each one of us to
make a new beginning, some sort of a difference, no
matter how big or small the contribution is.

I am very happy to present yet another issue of Here &
Now ‘’Expressions’’. As a team we have tried to capture
the essence of expressing through diverse means, be it
through silence, questioning, dilemmas, poetry or forms
of cognitive approaches. This is to help each one share
their innermost thoughts and feelings as it reaches and
impacts the persons who read.

On behalf of my team I wish to thank all the contributors
of this issue. We are indeed grateful to each one of you.
I hope you enjoy this issue. Your feedback shall help us
improve further and it will be highly regarded and
appreciated.

With best wishes and warm regards,

                                                                               3]]></page><page Index="4"><![CDATA[Positive Psychology revolves around           engaged in playing the game (cricket).        interdependent human processes in group
                                              However, this also is not comprehensive       interactions at my workplace.
happiness. This is an important concept in    enough to make the person truly happy.        On a self mode, I could practice listening
Organizational Behavior.                      Eventually, what the person does to make      and develop intervention skills, thereby
                                              it replete of meaningfulness in that the      developing human process sensitivity
Professor Martin Seligman, who is             person should contribute to something         towards others. My engagement occurred
regarded as the father of Positive            which has purpose and meaning in life.        when I started exploring options to work
Psychology, has a unique formula for          Rather than merely watching cricket-          on the dilemmas in inter and intra
happiness:                                    match (pleasure) and playing the game         personal situations within the ambit of my
                                              (engagement), what will make her/him          job.
H (Happiness) =                               genuinely happy is, if the person can play
P (Pleasure) + E (Engagement) +               cricket, say, for a noble cause to generate                       4
M (Meaningfulness)                            funds from such a game/tournament for
                                              the needy in terms of social responsibility.
Therefore, a person who wishes to be          Once the above takes place, happiness
happy has to identify things/activities       comes full circle and would be sustained.
which provide pleasure to her/him. For
example, a person may love cricket. So,       I can reflect back on my BHLP (Basic Lab)
watching a cricket match on television will   experience at ISABS and mention how the
make the person happy. However, this is       above worked for me.
not all.
                                              Before undergoing labs, my perspective
The person, to be happy, gets immersed in     of happiness was restricted to
the act he loves and gains pleasure in. In    materialistic pleasures only; after
the aforesaid example, the person will be     undergoing BHLP, I could Identify and
truly happy if the person herself/himself is  develop greater awareness of]]></page><page Index="5"><![CDATA[Above all, my meaningfulness towards            at work.                                    In essence, through my participation in
making myself truly happy took place                                                        lab, I could unlearn my rigidity within and
when I found myself contributing with           We had another co-participant, a school-    learn to open up externally in groups. My
greater effectiveness through rendering         teacher who yearned to take up              interpersonal relationships in the process
care for society by way of immersing            management teaching as a second career      improved, and I was more composed and
myself in providing joy to the less             - I could humbly add value to this by       happy.
privileged ones around in community.            recommending places she could explore,
                                                and which brought result.                       Dr.(Prof.) Debaprasad Chattopadhyay
In all the foregoing instances, the group-                                                                                               BLHP
members in BHLP setting at ISABS were           Yet another participant was passing
immensely helpful to me in helping me re-       through a turbulent mental phase                             debaprasad@globsyn.edu.in
discovering myself which contributed to         following a separation from her husband.
my effectiveness at work and happiness          She continuously wept for the first three
internally. In hindsight, I firmly believe the  days of lab. In the latter part of the lab
five days BHLP at ISABS served as a true        she learnt through participant interaction
motivational force; we had around ten co-       that life is all about positively looking
participants in the lab, each one was           ahead rather than brooding over past
unique in terms of her/his share of issues.     miseries.
Speaking about me, I was literally a
workaholic till then. To a query from           Another participant spoke about how she
fellow participants as to when I last took      felt when she came to know that a new
my family for pleasure trip, i replied that     joinee with comparatively less academic
it is twelve years. They suggested that I       qualifications was being paid more; we
should strike a balance between work and        freely interacted with her saying that it
life; acting on this suggestion, I              does not matter where one starts and
commenced taking my family out for a            how one progresses in the short interim
trip every year, which not only made me         but it matters how and where one
happy but also enhanced my productivity         effectively culminates.

                                                                                            5]]></page><page Index="6"><![CDATA[Life sometimes puts us in between                                                        Ekta Anand
Calling a person’s name or having a loving term of endearment "baby"
Between being friends to turning into lovers                                                    BLHP (Goa)
Between being sexually attracted to being soulfully connected                       ekta360@igmail.com
Between wanting to cook for them and cooking with them
Between wanting to sleep with them and waking up with them
Between saying ‘see you again’ and ‘wish you stay forever’
Between being experimentative and being exclusive.

Between being ‘this’ and patiently waiting for ‘that’
Being ‘in between’ sometimes ... leads to something
Sometimes it’s difficult - when you are stuck between trying harder- or letting go
Just when you feel, you have started to understand life... And you’ve nailed it...
Life throws another question paper at you... A bigger jigsaw... A bigger riddle..
And you’re at ground zero... Trying to decipher where to begin...
In between knowing something and not knowing where to go
Just when we think we have smartened up, life shows us a reality check...
A mirror –
It’s painful to see our own image sometimes. A reality check that says
- you don’t know a thing!
So what does one do? What can one do?
The best is to let go... Let life take over...
Because that’s how its going to be ... That’s the way it goes!

                                                                                    6]]></page><page Index="7"><![CDATA[The Unfolding Of The Unconscious is an amazing process.

While it is effort-full and also at times painful,
the usual clichéd states ascribed to this process.

What however amazes me is that,
what it reveals is nothing new!
We already know it well.

It appears so fresh and alive, when it emerges.
We get aware of it so quickly
and realize how it has been impacting “our being” and our life.

And the cost we have been paying for living that way.
Just that it has not been in our conscious awareness!

We know it, but are not aware of it.

A very intriguing state.
Knowing but not being aware!
And by not being aware, our life seems to be running in an auto mode.

That is how our unconscious is driving our life.
And without awareness we becomes victims of our own self.

There seems to be a strong “membrane of living” that
separates this hidden knowing from coming into awareness.

                                                                       7]]></page><page Index="8"><![CDATA[This “membrane of living” is the mindless rush of tasks:        Ameet Mattoo
of doing;                                                       Intern
of achieving;
of making things happen;                                        Ameet.mattoo@
of setting things right;                                        gmail.com
of looking good;
and a lot more things ......
Without creating any space to reflect.

Only with reflection,
with moments of silence,
does awareness emerge
and the possibility to uncover the unconsciousness emerges.

While it indeed is effort-full: to break-into the unconscious,
the more we are persistent, the more it will happen.

And once this “membrane of living” is permeated,
it becomes all too easy ….
to make sense of what has been really happening.

So, emerges the possibility of doing things differently,
and altering the life script
we have been so mindless following.

There is immense empowerment and freedom in this new being.

As Carl Jung said, “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life
and you will call it fate.“

                                                                                        8]]></page><page Index="9"><![CDATA[Bindu Cherungath,

                                                                                          ODCP Batch VI
                                                                        binduc@insigniasolutions.net

The ‘ODCP ‘journey has been like an emotional roller coaster ride for me.

I used to find solace in writing a highly structured, content-oriented log and take pride in the same,
which conveniently helped me escape from the discomfort of reflecting upon my own emotional
vulnerabilities.

Then came the review of my third ‘Contact’ module log (‘CM3’). Dialoguing with my Academic Council
Member and Mentor made me understand that my logs should be more ‘process-centric’ and less
‘content-centric’. I was also asked to be creative.

Being a movie buff and blogger of movie reviews, I take a lot of learning from movies – a medium which
I find very expressive. So I thought of assimilating my ‘CM4: Goa Travelogue’ in the form of film strips.

I picked up pictures and comic illustrations with relevant comments (courtesy Google Images) which
resonated with the events I experienced, and my feelings. I arranged all the film strips sequentially in
the order in which events, themes and experiences unfolded for me during this journey. I felt satisfied
due to two major reasons: one, I was able to change my conventional style of content-oriented,
structured log writing, and two, I was able to experiment with my Creativity in log writing. I am happy
and feel blessed that my ‘CM4 Goa Travelogue’ finds space in ‘Here and Now’.

                                                                                                           9]]></page><page Index="10"><![CDATA[10]]></page><page Index="11"><![CDATA[11]]></page><page Index="12"><![CDATA[12]]></page><page Index="13"><![CDATA[13]]></page><page Index="14"><![CDATA[14]]></page><page Index="15"><![CDATA[15]]></page><page Index="16"><![CDATA[Thoughts were my feelings,                                Rose the phoenix of feelings,
                     the future my home,                                 as the heart thundered about,
                                                                     grey matter gave way to palpitations,
                the here and now as fiction,                          silences brought introspections out
               with the fear of an unknown
                                                                           As the ISABS journey ended,
                 Walk I did on my ego trip,                              the heart questioned the mind,
                     till I lost and found,                         what say you about your present state!
                                                                   What thoughts do you hold in your bind?
               the true meaning of feelings,
               from my ISABS group around                              I have fallen in love with feelings,
                                                                            says the mind to the heart,
             Give love and get ten-fold back,
                  was a feeling unknown,                               don’t let rationalization infect you,
                   how selfish I had been,                                you have made a good start.
                   for so long, for so long
                                                                   Sasmit Patra,
           Here I was with complete strangers,                                BLHP
             and parted from them with tears
             the bear hugs got a little tighter,      sasmitpatra@gmail.com
            as we trampled each other’s fears

The white pillows and mattresses are mute witnesses,
                to the tears shed all around,

             fear, guilt, egos and selfishness,
                  got strewn to the ground

                                                                                                              16]]></page><page Index="17"><![CDATA[Me my world and all that is within it                  Nisha
        Began with challenges and the need to overcome it.
                                                                              ALHP
                  I pushed my way thru on a daily basis
And came back weary, sometimes high ... sometimes defeated.    nisha.shevade@libertyvideocon.com

              I wondered to myself ... is that all there is ?
           Is there more to life than to fight it repeatedly?

        So next day morning I looked across the battlefield
      The same ground, same world, same pattern repeated.

             I looked again, I saw my enemy ahead of me
              Dressed for battle, I saw myself facing me.

         I looked again, I saw the same emotions reflected
              The pain, the anger, the turmoil within me.

           Who am I fighting? Why is the cycle repeating?
          When does this end? Who will help me finish it?

        I put out my hand, sought the one ally ahead of me.
Me & Myself ……We have begun... Let's see how we finish this.

                                                                                                  17]]></page><page Index="18"><![CDATA[“If you don`t understand my silence, you       how to deal with it. At that point, with our  silence generates feelings of rejection and
won't understand my words.”                    limited understanding of processes, the       negative emotion. There may be internal
                                               belief was that every situation has a         restlessness, manifested externally
                                    Anonymous  ready-made solution or intervention,          through gestures and actions. The silence
                                               which we can loftily refer to.                is usually broken by the one most
Silence – how often have we encountered                                                      uncomfortable or restless with the
silence in our groups? The seconds             It was only when I actually started co-       silence. It may be accompanied by small
stretch to minutes…the minutes seem like       facilitation that clarity emerged. There are  talk and overt or surreptitious glances at
hours! We start getting restless. “Will        no “ready-made” mantras, no sure-shot         the facilitators.
someone please break this silence?”, we        interventions that will work. No magic
silently scream. The million dollar            wand which, when waved, will create           As a facilitator, I sometimes feel paralysed
question is : “Who? And when?”                 learning. Most importantly, it taught me      by these silences. The dilemma is – should
Sometimes I wonder, “How long is silence       to understand silence.In my various labs      I break the silence and therefore, break
acceptable in a group?” “When do we            subsequently, I have been able to make        the natural flow? Or should I let the
intervene?” How many times we have             peace with silence and identify its various   silence run its natural course? If I break
agonized over these questions.                 facets. From my personal experience, I        the silence, I may be intercepting a
                                               have tried to classify silence as I           process which may get suppressed as
Silence has the capability of making all of    understand it.                                members who are more articulate will
us – participants and facilitators alike –                                                   hijack the group and give the quieter ones
“uncomfortable”, to say the least. I still     Uncomfortable silence – Usually observed      a reprieve from their struggle. This
remember my PDP journey. We were so            at the beginning of the small group.          paralysis generates a powerlessness in
eager to have all the answers, we packed       Members are strangers to each other and       me. To break or not to break – that is the
it with conceptual sessions. In one of the     unsure of what is expected of them.           question!
sessions with Tom, we wanted to know           Depending on the level of patience, it may
about silence – silence in the group and       be associated with anxiety as members         In one of my earliest experiences of
                                               struggle to break the silence.                facilitation, a participant was extremely
                                               Uncomfortable silences tend to “elicit        uncomfortable with the silences and
                                               primal fears, activating anxiety-provoking    would say something every time there
                                               feelings of incompatibility and exclusion.”   was one.
                                               (Tom Jacobs, Miller-McCune). This kind of
                                                                                                               18]]></page><page Index="19"><![CDATA[I pointed out my observation, and to my        groups, may also be a sign of rebellion.      the child in me responding to the childish
utter dismay, she interpreted my               The group may be aware of some                rebellion. There is an exhilarating feeling
intervention to mean that it was “wrong”       expectation - usually of the facilitator –    of power as I know something exciting is
to break the silence. So instead of working    but unwilling to put themselves “in the       going to happen.
on what the silence was doing to her, she      spotlight”. It is characterised by non-
struggled to maintain it.                      verbal communication (“ankhon-ankhon-         Poignant Silence –The word poignant can
                                               mein batein”), meaningful smiles, and, in     be defined as “something that touches
In terms of stage, I would identify this as    new-age technology, texts and Whatsapp        emotions deeply”. The silence which
the dependent stage. The group is              messages to one another. I identify this as   follows a “moving” or “meaningful”
dependent on either the facilitator or         the counter-dependence stage.                 experience in a lab may be described as
other members to make them feel                                                              poignant. It may be a catharsis, a
comfortable.                                   This type of silence energises me. I can      confrontation or a general or specific “A-
                                               feel “butterflies in my stomach”. I can feel  ha” moment, which has led to an
Pregnant Silence –This is equivalent of a                                                    emotional experience. It is a silence when
“baby waiting to be born”. The dictionary                                                    members may be mulling over what has
defines pregnant silence as an occasion                                                      happened, crystallizing their experience or
when nobody speaks, although people are                                                      conceptualizing their learning. There is
aware that there are feelings or thoughts                                                    intensity in this silence, as a myriad of
to express. This is the moment everyone                                                      emotions are floating around. Some
is waiting for. I would also describe it as a                                                members may even go into a state of
meaningful silence. There is a richness in                                                   somnolence – our best coping and escape
this silence – something meaningful is                                                       mechanism.
waiting to happen. There is anticipation
and some amount of suspense in the air.                                                      This is also the stage of interdependence,
Some members may even sense some                                                             as the group feels connected in some
anxiety and trepidation, as they are aware                                                   way.s
– consciously or unconsciously – that
something meaningful is about to happen.                                                                       19
This type of silence, in more adventurous]]></page><page Index="20"><![CDATA[The boat is now is steady waters, which is  Mia: Don't you hate that?                     and energies will best describe to you
why the group reacts very strongly to       Vincent: What?                                what the silence means. We understand
anyone member who tries to “rock the        Mia: Uncomfortable silences. Why do we        people by their words; lets also try to
boat” at this stage.                        feel it's necessary to yak about bullshit in  understand their silence.
                                            order to be comfortable?
Comfortable Silence –I think the character  Vincent: I don't know. That's a good
of Mia, in the movie Pulp Fiction,          question.
describes this silence best. In the lab,    Mia: That's when you know you've found
comfortable silences may be experienced     somebody special. When you can just
when members are at peace with what         shut the *&$# up for a minute and
has happened.                               comfortably enjoy the silence.

                                            They are comfortable in each others’          If you don’t understand my silence, you
                                            presence, and do not feel the need to fill    won’t understand my words
                                            the silence with “meaningless” chatter.
                                            There is internal as well as external peace.  It’s yesterday that I cry
                                            The body language is also relaxed.            the past, the fragile droplet
                                                                                          that slithers down my cheek.
                                            This is also the stage where the group        A tear, not clear
                                            moves to the independent stage. It is         but red and grey and blue,
                                            where each member is empowered
                                            enough to make themselves comfortable;        with blood and shadows and bruises –
                                            and they are not dependent on anyone          a hardened rock
                                            else for their state of being.                straight from the heart.

                                            So the next time there is silence, listen to                    20
                                            the silence carefully. Feel your energy. Pay
                                            attention to your feelings. Your feelings]]></page><page Index="21"><![CDATA[It’s the product of silence         from which you can’t just escape              Rachna Sharma
and caught up words                 as they become your soul.
in a tangled web of fear.                                                         Professional Member
A silent war without swords         It’s the dark secret of my heart.            sansuras@hotmail.com
but guns loaded with shards         It’s the curse of my mind.
of a death cloaked heart            It’s the strain on my soul.
that forgot how to beat.
It’s a cloud of unknown             It’s the tear in my eye.
where even crows don’t fly          But it’s why I am who I am,
but their cackles ring throughout.  It’s why I know I’ll never understand.
                                    If you don’t understand my words, you
A lonely place                      won’t understand my silence.
of dark and dampened mist
that drapes over you                Emma Mariott
but inside your head,               (http://allpoetry.com/poem/10356793-If-you-
and it fills your brain             don-t-understand-my-silence--you-won-t-
where no one else can see.          understand-my-words-by-Dark-Reflection)

It’s a puppet show
with white faced dolls
and fake red smiles.
A false reality
with plastic masks
and unseen controlling strings,

                                                                                 21]]></page><page Index="22"><![CDATA[We live a life full of tension and stress. We  Tensions that come from traumatic events     Formally, we can define, Psychological
want something but we tell ourselves that      in the outer world, for instance, having an  Defense Mechanisms as an in-voluntary,
that something is not meant for us.            accident, losing a job, missing out on a     unconscious strategy of helping our mind
Accidents happen, we fall ill. All of these    promotion, losing a near and dear one        cope with stress and danger.
create tension and stress in our minds.        etc. Tensions from outside events can be
                                               broadly categorized as of two kinds: those   .
If we were to closely look at where these      that are caused by other people, and
tensions are coming from we would be           those that are caused by unforeseen                  Have a heart that never hardens, and a
able to recognize two sources for these:       events. Tensions caused by other people             temper that never tires, and a touch that
events that take place within our minds,       include their bad behavior with you; those
and those that take place in the outside       by events include things like accidents and                      never hurts.
world.                                         illnesses.                                                     -Charles Dickens

Tensions that have their source in our own     Whether the tensions are because of                              22
minds, come from the conflict between          events inside our mind, or events in the
what we desire, and the dictates of our        outer world, these need to be dealt with.
conscience. Our desires - what psycho-         The 'organ' that deals with tensions in our
analysts call id, include wanting to be with   mind is what the psychologists call 'ego'.
someone we find attractive, or beating up
someone we are angry with. Our                 The job of the ego is to create a
conscience - what psycho-analysts call the     mechanisms of defense that guards our
super-ego - tells us that we cannot spend      sanity, and ensures that we are able to
time with an attractive person because         cope with the various tensions. These
that person comes from a different             mechanisms of defense are what psycho-
background; and tells us that we cannot        analysts call Psychological Defense
beat up someone because it is against the      Mechanisms.
law.]]></page><page Index="23"><![CDATA[As an aside: the term Psychological            This task of the ego can be presented - of
Defense Mechanisms was first elaborated        dealing with internal and external tension,
upon by Anna Freud, daughter of the            by modifying one or more of the above.
famous psycho-analyst, Sigmund Freud.          It can be represented diagrammatically as
(incidentally, Anna Freud too is considered    follows:
a pre-eminent psycho-analyst in her own
right!) The concept of Psychological
Defense Mechanisms has been elaborated
and deepened by people such as George
Valliant - this write up is essentially based
on the work of Valliant, called 'The
Wisdom of the Ego".

Going back to our concept of
Psychological defence Mechanisms, the
job of the ego is to defend the person
from the tensions caused by the above
cited internal and external events. The
ego does that by distorting or modifying
one or more of the following:

The awareness of self (the notion: the
kind of person I am)
The way the idea (of what is happening to
us) is interpreted.
The emotional impact of the cause of
tension.
The way the cause of the tension (the
other person or event) is interpreted.

                                                                                            23]]></page><page Index="24"><![CDATA[Experts have identified four different          is certainly rare to see these operating in   Psychotic Denial
kinds of Psychological Defense                  the context of a lab.
Mechanisms:                                                                                   Here we can take a hypothetical example.
                                                A couple of psychotic kind of defense         A man is murdered in a far away country.
Psychotic                                       mechanisms are as follows:                    When his wife is told about it, she does
Immature                                                                                      not believe it. This continues not just for
Neurotic                                        Delusional Projection                         days or weeks, but for years. She keeps on
Mature                                                                                        cleaning her husband's room and dry
                                                An example of this kind is seen in the case   cleaning his clothes; she tells everyone,
In the following pages, we will take some       of the main character of the movie            and herself, that her husband (from
examples from each of the above four            Omkara. (a film based on the                  whom, naturally enough, there has been
kinds of defense mechanisms.                    Shakespearean play: Othello). Omkara,         no correspondence for all these years) will
                                                the eponymous hero of this film, is           be coming home during the next holidays.
Psychotic Defenses                              convinced that his wife, Dolly, is having an  The woman has denied external reality as
                                                affair with his lieutenant, Kesu. He gets so  well as her emotions in order to deal with
These mechanisms are used by people             convinced about this by his other             the stress of losing her husband.
who are judged to be mentally ill: those        lieutenant, LangdaTyagi, that he ends up
who require the use of psychiatric              murdering his wife. Omkara is not willing
medicine. Use of these mechanisms               to explore reality; he has converted his
results in gross distortion of reality, or its  nightmares into reality. He is not only
total denial. Use of this mechanism also        distorting reality, his emotional response
results in a gross exaggeration of the          too is exaggerated.
emotional impact (which is why medicines
are usually required).                          We can consider this example as
                                                projection, because somehow he assumes
As is evident from the name, these              that his wife too would act like the typical
mechanisms are to be found very rarely: it      male he considers himself to be - one who
                                                will take pleasure in fooling one's spouse
                                                and carrying on affairs in secret.

                                                                                              24]]></page><page Index="25"><![CDATA[Immature Defenses                            despite his personal favors, the boss       Acting Out
                                             promotes someone else, Mohit is
Immature defenses are one of the most        convinced that the other person got the     Suresh is the elder of two brothers. He
common set of defense mechanisms.            promotion because that other person did     helps his father in his business. But then
These are called immature defenses           more personal favors for their boss than    one day his father announces that in his
because these occur the most in              what Mohit did. So, when he meets with      will he has decided to keep a bigger share
adolescents. As adolescents mature to be     this person after that person has just      for Suresh's younger brother. Suresh's
adults, such defense mechanisms tend to      emerged from the boss's office, Mohit       father thinks that his younger son should
be replaced, first by neurotic defenses,     says, "What were you doing inside:          get more share because he is young and
and later, if the individual has truly       buttering the boss?“                        helpless, while Suresh is quite capable of
developed, into Mature defenses.                                                         creating his own life.
                                             Passive Aggression
One other reason why these defenses are                                                  Suresh is very angry about this but he
called immature defenses is because the      When the boss calls out to Mohit, Mohit     does not say anything outwardly. That
use of these defenses annoys and irritates   makes it appear that he has not heard the   evening, when he takes his car out, he,
others. This is one reason why               boss calling him. And when he does meet     without any reason, bangs his car against
adolescents are found to be irritating both  the boss, and the boss scolds him for his   a cycle parked on the side of the road,
by parents and teachers.                     poor quality work saying, "You are an       mangling it in the process.
                                             idiot, Mohit", Mohit makes a stupid
Examples of immature defenses include        expression implying, what can he do, he
the following:                               was born like that.

Projection                                   Mohit is angry with his boss, but he does
                                             not express his anger in any way, except
Let's take a hypothetical example. Mohit     by passively working against the wishes of
has just started working, and he wants to    his boss.
get promoted quickly. He thinks if he does
some personal favors for his boss, his boss
will promote him. But when he sees that

                                                                                         25]]></page><page Index="26"><![CDATA[Hypochondriasis                               Displacement                                 Reaction Formation

Bharat is a great fellow. But whenever I      Suresh is angry with his father, but as he   When I meet Suresh, he sounds very
meet him he complains that his stomach        cannot take out his anger with his father,   happy the way his father has gone about
is aching, or he has this headache that       he takes out his anger on his servant. The   deciding about his property. He praises his
never gets cured. Whenever I suggest an       moment he sees that his servant has          father for his foresight and sensitivity, and
option, or talk about a doctor, he says that  made some small mistake, he shouts at        his ability to balance the needs of the two
he has tried all remedies, and met all        his servant and insults him, calling him an  children.
doctors. It seems that he is not interested   idiot.
in knowing about cures; his interest is just                                               In this case, even though Suresh is angry
getting me to listen to his endless           Intellectualization                          with his father, he has turned his anger to
complaints!                                                                                its opposite - admiration and liking.
                                              Suresh is very angry with his father but
Neurotic Defenses                             instead of expressing his anger, he makes    Reaction formation is very moralistic in
                                              a cool, emotion less presentation on how     nature: after all, it is morals that are used
Immature defenses, when employed by           his father's decision about the division of  to justify the opposite reaction. (it is
an individual, trouble and irritate the       property is not appropriate in law. The      moral to appreciate one's father!)
people around them. Neurotic defenses,        way Suresh talks about the problem, it       Unfortunately, while Reaction Formation
in contrast, trouble the individuals who      seems that he is talking about someone       may seem admirable to others, it gives
employ them. People around them may           else's problem.                              little pleasure to the one adopting this.
not even know that the individual is                                                       This is because, even though Suresh may
adopting a particular defense mechanism.      Repression                                   sound positive about his father, he will
Some of the well know neurotic defenses                                                    actually not be able to get close to his
include the following:                        Whenever I meet Suresh on the way, he        father. The anger within is still there and
                                              seems totally out of sorts. When I ask him   even as he expresses admiration, he will
                                              what is the matter, he says actually         experience abrasiveness (towards his
                                              nothing is the matter: for some              father) internally. And this abrasiveness
                                              inexplicable reason his mood has been off    would be picked up by the other party
                                              for many days.                               too.

                                                                                                               26]]></page><page Index="27"><![CDATA[preventing the other from getting close to      relationship, but leads to a constructive        also realizes that his father is not likely to
this individual. In other words, despite        dialogue between him and his father. He          change his decisions. So, he decides to
Suresh admiring his father loudly, in           meets his father, talks about how he has         channelize his anger in order to fight
reality, Suresh would find it difficult to get  been feeling (does this without shouting         inequity and exploitation in the
close to his father.                            at his father!), and then expresses his          community at large: he makes that his
                                                interest in knowing about what his father        new goal in life.
Mature Defenses                                 feels now that he has expressed his
                                                feelings.                                        Reference
As the term indicates, mature defenses                                                           The Wisdom of the Ego by George E.
are employed by people who have truly           Suppression sounds suspiciously like             Vaillant, Harvard University Press, 1993
matured as human beings. These are              Repression (or Denial) in which the
individuals who are concerned with more         individual does not know that he is angry.                         Tejinder Bhogal
than their own existence, and are               Suppression, on the other hand, is more a
genuinely concerned and involved with           case of 'postponement, and dilution, of                            Professional Member
the growth of others around them. The           gratification': in this case, the gratification                  tejibhogal@gmail.com
kind of defenses these people use lead to       of raging against someone!
others praising these individuals for their                                                                          27
wisdom and inner strength. Some of these        Again, suppression is seen as a sign of
defenses include:                               wisdom and maturity: the person would
                                                be admired as to how he handled his
Suppression                                     anger with others - conveying it in way
                                                that showed that the person was not
Suresh is angry with his father. He would       hiding things, but at the same time doing
like his father to know about his anger in a    it in a way that retained the dignity of all
way that does not destroy the                   concerned.

                                                Sublimation

                                                Suresh is very angry with his father, but he]]></page><page Index="28"><![CDATA[Sushma Sharma

                                      Professional Member

Life is but a fleeting glance                                     sushmas@yahoo.com
Precious grass spreading
Green joy all around                  Flowers cool to the touch
With dew drops on it like             The variety of colours and designs
The pearls spread all over            Beating any fashion designer to shame
                                      Spreading fragrance of life
The vastness of ocean
Creating the mystery                  And the sky so expansive
Vast and attractive                   An artistspallete with rich colours
Touching the core of depth within us  And seductive clouds
                                      Beckoning possibilities and hopes
The steady mountains
Silent and imposing                   Life is sitting at my feet
Calling us to explore                 Just to touch
It's myriad colours                   And experience in the here and now
                                      What am I waiting for ?

                                                                                            28]]></page><page Index="29"><![CDATA[S       It is simple to make a        It requires strength
OI      simple thing complex,           to be vulnerable
MN      but complex to make              whereas what
ES
           a complex thing            appears as strength
     I           simple                      may be
     G
     H                                    vulnerability
     T
     S  What is genuine turns out
        to be artificial and what is
         artificial turns out to be

                   genuine

                                      Vipul

                                      BLHP

                                                             29]]></page><page Index="30"><![CDATA[A Tribute by
                                    Dr TV Rao

                                    Professional Member

Dr. PVR Murthy left for heavenly    Institution building is an act of faith. No institution gets built by a single
abode on18th Sept. 2015 leaving     individual. It is the faith of several though a few may be the champions.
behind HR fraternity in a state of  PVR is one who has shown such faith in two institutions with which he
shock. We offer our heart felt      was associated: NHRDN and ISABS.He rarely aspired to be an office
condolenses                         bearer in both these institutions and whenever given, accepted humbly
                                    and continued his work silently in the same way as when he was not
                                    holding office. His commitment was to the institution and not to the
                                    office.

                                                                                                                                     30]]></page><page Index="31"><![CDATA[PVR was a participant at the National        Sundaram Clayton to introduce the PMS           retirement leave in 1994 to work with him
seminar on "Recent Experiences of HRD"       share with each other our dreams for            to get him to write his Ph.D at my house in
held at Sea Rock hotel Mumbai by XLRI        NHRDN. We used to discuss more about            Hyderabad. His thesis was on how Indian
and L&T in 1985. coordinated by me as        NHRDN and its foundations and the future        Managers learn from various sources. The
L&T Professor of HRD at XLRI and Dr.DF       work. It was in these conversations, we         work we did with the Academy of HRD
Pereira, CHRO at L&T. I came in touch with   designed a distance education program           came in handy to collect a lot of data.
PVR in this seminar. He was working          and also the HRD Facilitators program           Four of us (UdaiPareek, Fr.E.Abraham,
with Sundaram Clayton as DGMHR.              which we implemented along with ISABS           Keith D'Souza and Sethumadhavan)
                                             in Jaipur. It is the funds from these           worked together in a few projects for the
When we decided to start the HRD             programs that helped us to start                Academy of HRD.
Network, he along with Chandrasekhar of      theAcademy of HRD.
L&TECC, volunteered to steer it in Chennai.                                                  I tried to get him to write a paper on his
Since then there was no looking back.        When he told me the story of how he             thesis as a tribute to Udai Pareek but
                                             narrowly missed getting his Fellow title        could not persuade beyond a point due to
He continued to support NHRDN with his       from IIMC, I felt bad and repeatedly            his health. I did not even know that he
                                             persuaded him not to give up with IIMC.         was going through serious health issue.
time and spirit. His contribution was both                                                   Looks that while he shared joys with us all
                                             He did a lot of work for his fellow program     he kept his pain to himself.
in terms of intellectual capital and         at IIMC and even met and interviewed
                                             Mrs.Gandhi forhis dissertation work and         His association with NHRDN and ISABS
continuous rejuvenation whenever the         also wrote a thesis. As I recollect it did not  are over thirty years. He had been a
                                             get the approval of someone and he had          silent worker and a rejuvenator of the
Chennai Network was in need. When            to join back his company and could not          Institutions. He kept them alive with his
                                             pursue the same. He registered for his          contributions.
NHRDN was going down, he volunteered         Ph.D. with me with Gujarat University and
                                             got his Ph.D. from the same as a                His most recent contribution to NHRD was
to rejuvenate it and bring it back on        candidate from IIMA. I can’t forget the         the Journal. What both Udai Pareek and I
                                             hard work he had put in to collect data for     had not succeeded in starting, Murthy
tracks. At my request the Board appointed    his Ph.D. We spent a few days together at       had succeeded.
                                             my house in Jubilee Hills. I look back with
me as Chairman  of the                       a sense of satisfaction that I used my early                        31

Rejuvenation committee. He assisted a

lot and spear headed the rejuvenation

of Chennai chapter and played the same

role with ISABS at several junctures.

I still remember the several journeys we
used to have from Bangalore to Hosur
whenever he invited me to work with]]></page><page Index="32"><![CDATA[Academics have their own views of a            undoubtedly a silent Institution Builder
professional Journal and we gave up the        who rarely took any credit for whatever he
idea of a Journal for want of quality          has contributed.
articles. However PVR pursued it and
restarted the idea under the NHRDN             Undoubtedly Institution Building is an act
Presidentship of Dwarakanath, and              of faith and not of one person but of many
conceptualised a different type of a           silent contributors like PVR who exhibit
journal. There were differences of opinion     immense faith in the institutions they are
but PVR went ahead and made a user             associated with.
friendly journal with international
contributions. The journal has been            PVR was not only a valued HR and BS
brought out in more than 30 issues and         professional but a good friend, family
each issue is like a book which can form an    friend, good human being and a silent
independent course material in a PG            worker. We miss him.
program. It has short, simple to read
quality articles with people from all over
the world contributing to it. I have used
some of them in classes taught at IIM,
Ranchi etc. This is a silent and
extraordinary contribution of PVR. These
journals will remind us forever of the silent
and great contributions of people like PVR
to the profession.

He has also been a great facilitator of
ISABS and would keep pushing old and
new members to meet frequently and also
mentor as well as create mentoring
opportunities for others. PVR is

                                                                                           32]]></page><page Index="33"><![CDATA[ममऱे थे अजनबी से हमराही हम नए                     Shakti Roy
ये कै सा हु आ अजूबा, हमदम बन गए ||
कु छ हमने कहा, कु छ तुमने सुना                    Professional Member
कु छ तुमने कहा, कु छ हमने सुना                    shaktiroy55@yahoo.co.uk
बातों ही बातों में, सुर ददऱ के ममऱ गए ||
बड़ा मुश्ककऱ था ये सफर, जाना था ददऱ के अॊदर                               33
झाकॉ ा तो ममऱा वहाॊ पर, जज्बातों का बवॊडर,
पर सबने हाथ बॊटाया, मॊश्जऱ को पा गए ||
पत्थरददऱ हो गए थे, गमजम ोशी की कमी थी,
एक दजू े से सीखा हमने, बाटॊ े कै से ददऱ की गमी |
गमामहट इतनी हो गई, पत्थर भी पपघऱ गए ||

            डोना मसश्ववया ररसोटम, गोआ
            26 मई 2015
            ऱैब के अतॊ तम ददनों के भाव]]></page><page Index="34"><![CDATA[New and views, and contribution of articles for
           future issues may be sent to:
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            BE SHOULD BE ENOUGH MOTIVATION.”

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