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preventing the other from getting close to relationship, but leads to a constructive also realizes that his father is not likely to
this individual. In other words, despite dialogue between him and his father. He change his decisions. So, he decides to
Suresh admiring his father loudly, in meets his father, talks about how he has channelize his anger in order to fight
reality, Suresh would find it difficult to get been feeling (does this without shouting inequity and exploitation in the
close to his father. at his father!), and then expresses his community at large: he makes that his
interest in knowing about what his father new goal in life.
Mature Defenses feels now that he has expressed his
feelings. Reference
As the term indicates, mature defenses The Wisdom of the Ego by George E.
are employed by people who have truly Suppression sounds suspiciously like Vaillant, Harvard University Press, 1993
matured as human beings. These are Repression (or Denial) in which the
individuals who are concerned with more individual does not know that he is angry. Tejinder Bhogal
than their own existence, and are Suppression, on the other hand, is more a
genuinely concerned and involved with case of 'postponement, and dilution, of Professional Member
the growth of others around them. The gratification': in this case, the gratification tejibhogal@gmail.com
kind of defenses these people use lead to of raging against someone!
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wisdom and inner strength. Some of these Again, suppression is seen as a sign of
defenses include: wisdom and maturity: the person would
be admired as to how he handled his
Suppression anger with others - conveying it in way
that showed that the person was not
Suresh is angry with his father. He would hiding things, but at the same time doing
like his father to know about his anger in a it in a way that retained the dignity of all
way that does not destroy the concerned.
Sublimation
Suresh is very angry with his father, but he
